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Post by Missi on Aug 4, 2006 7:47:18 GMT 7
I live on the school grounds, and as I try to say to people I can be very rude. If my students come to my house, its the last time they ever come to my house. The door is shut in their face. First day of classes I tell them my house is off limits to them. If they don't lsiten, well I get to be rude. My neighbours and I have a little chuckle every September/ October. I have a sign on my door- instead of the no smoking sign, its a no student sign.
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Post by Lotus Eater on Aug 4, 2006 8:01:18 GMT 7
I am just the opposite. I live on campus and run one class a week plus do public speaking and debate training in my apartment. I also have students (not mine, but interested others) come for English practice. I have held parties and just 'relax' evenings of board/card games, DVD watching etc. for students as well. They ALWAYS clean up after themselves.
They borrow my CDs, DVDs and books.
Students have never abused this - if they need something they ring first and ask if they can come over. When I have been sick they have rocked up to cook me traditional remedies, dinner and clean up my kitchen for me!
In turn I have been invited to dinner, karaoke, dancing, mountain climbing, camping with them.
So far it has worked well.
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Post by Missi on Aug 4, 2006 8:19:21 GMT 7
I teach high school students- and some would be able to respect my privacy, but most no way. I love having people over to have dinner, play board games or a movie night.
How do you tell your Chinese friends not to touch your stuff?
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Post by Lotus Eater on Aug 4, 2006 8:36:23 GMT 7
Mine are university students - so are that bit older. The only person who has really wandered around my apartment touching stuff was the ex-g/f of my masseur. While he was giving me a massage, she would look at things, or open stuff. But they have now split up so it's no problem. No-one else does/has.
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Post by cheekygal on Aug 4, 2006 19:30:50 GMT 7
Even in Chinese culture it is quite rude to touch people's things withoug permission. So those who do - are considered *ill-behaved*.
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Post by Missi on Aug 6, 2006 7:37:08 GMT 7
I have built myself some shelves. Not the most beautiful things in the world (and one is a little lop sided- I need to find a level!) but now that I know the process and where to buy all the material I can make more and do it right the next time.
The highes shelf, is 7 feet from the ground. I have put all my photo's there. Its an easy reach for me, but for most people it would be too difficult. And I can see the pic's fine.
I placed an order for more CD Hypnotic from one of the stores. A woman was playing with my perfumes while I was cooking, and she "dropped" it. The bottle was 968RMB!!! it was still half full and it shattered when it hit the floor. I was so upset. And its mainly the women, not the men who do this.
Need mroe coffee, my rant is over.
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Post by Mr Nobody on Aug 7, 2006 19:41:01 GMT 7
Even in Chinese culture it is quite rude to touch people's things withoug permission. So those who do - are considered . Suicidal. |
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Post by cheekygal on Aug 7, 2006 20:35:55 GMT 7
 oh I discovered a new icon! 
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Post by Raoul Duke on Aug 7, 2006 22:07:14 GMT 7
Student drop-ins are just one of many reasons I won't ever do the on-campus thing. (Others include even less privacy than you'll get in an apartment, 7am knocks at the door to come substitute an 8am class, strict hours and rules about visitors, possible utility stoppages over the holidays, etc...)
I've become close friends with a few uni students, but it's been a very, very select group.
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Post by cheekygal on Aug 7, 2006 23:35:28 GMT 7
I've discovered that since I last lived here the total rent of the duplex became 1,000RMB lower if 1 person lives here and 700 lower if two people live here. It might go up a bit in winter, but still!!! Though ayi comes for whole day on Friday now so her salary has gone up a bit. The living room is full of plants and I am still perplexing myself whether they will survive 3 months with me while my flat-mate is gone. I think I would need to have a serious *taking-care-of-plants* course in the terrace of Ladies' Lounge  |
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Post by Missi on Aug 8, 2006 5:43:10 GMT 7
We don't have strict rules about visitors, we just need to let the gate guards know if we are going to have a large group of people coming to visit, for safety reasons. There was a lunatic (not you EL) who came to a school and murdered a few students and left using the gate. Since then a few new rules about signing in and signing out have come into effect.
When it comes to my students, as long as they are my students, I will not be their friend. I will be there to listen if they need me too, spend extra time with them to practice their English. Once they are no longer my students we go for dinners, I have some of them to my house, we'll go to a bar.
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Post by cheekygal on Aug 8, 2006 16:03:24 GMT 7
In a way I am lucky my students are little kids because they would never be let to my appartment alone without their parents and parents usually don't will to visit the habitance of the teacher  |
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